z i n l o o s !

A relationship is a miracle. It should not happen really, scientifically it should not happen. It happens because man is not yet scientific. And it is good that he is not yet scientific, and he is never going to be absolutely scientific. Something illogical will remain in the heart of man. That keeps the flame of humanity alive, otherwise man becomes a machine. Only machines are utterly adjusted, a machine is never maladjusted.

So this is the problem facing every couple:
total conflict and all is destroyed , there is no bridge between you and the other, a relationship doesn't exist.total adjustment and again the relationship disappears because there is no more flow, there is no more hope. Just between the two, exactly in the middle between adjustment and conflict, a little bit of adjustment, a little bit of conflict.... And they go together. They look contradictory but they are complementary.

If one can remember that, one remains sane,otherwise a relationship can drive you insane. There are moments when it drives people insane, when it is too much to bear. So never ask for absolute adjustment. Just a little bit is more than enough , feel grateful for that ! and let the relationship remain a flow. Be together, but don't become one. Be together, but don't become absolutely unconnected. Remain two and yet in contact. That's what I mean by the middle.

And be a little more alert. One has to be a little more conscious when one is moving in love, and one has to be careful about the other. Whatsoever you do affects him